When it’s Time to be Ready

on being ready

The truth about being ready is that you’ll never be ready.

That is simultaneously the best and worse news.

Depending on my mood.

I like control and even though I know that change takes some risk, I’d prefer to not have to move out of my comfort zone…

fun

Do you know what I spend most of my time doing whenever I help people in their homes?

Most of my time is spent encouraging people that YES, they should do that thing that they are already wanting to do. Most of us don’t need help knowing our options, or feeling drawn to a certain choice. Most of us want assurance that our decision will work out just right.

mistakes

We want a beautiful home that is charming and interesting, but we aren’t willing to take a risk and we will give up if we make one decision that we aren’t happy with.

Beauty isn’t possible without risk.

Change isn’t possible without changing.

We want to start a new business, but there are no guarantees. And since we can’t be guaranteed, and that’s debilitating, we choose to guarantee safety and not have a business, or take that trip, or make that hard choice.

 

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adventure of yes

decisions

This book I’ve been quoting is like taking a course on how to make decisions. I’m highlighting words on almost every page. Let’s stop blaming “not having peace” about something and start being women who aren’t afraid to say yes, and are confident to stick to our no when we believe that’s what we need to do.

 

the places you'll go

Where are the college courses on making decisions? Where are the PhD’s in decision-making?

I want to teach a decorating class together with this Pastor who isn’t even talking about decorating because think about what would change if we could get past the fear of making a decision.

This is why it’s so important for us to get past making a nail hole in our walls or choosing the wrong paint color–because if we can’t make a decision and take a little risk in the privacy and comfort of our own homes about where to hang a picture, how in the WORLD will we ever be able to take bigger, more important, life altering risks that we are presented?

Creating a beautiful, meaningful home is its own reward, but is also great training for life.

places to go

I’ve been reading All the Places to Go: How will you know, our family (including three teenage boys) has been watching the DVDs that go with the book. It’s a great read–only for anyone who will ever need to make a decision. And if you know high school seniors–here’s their graduation gift.

how will you know

 

 It’s an honor to share this post about an author that I’m now a devoted fan of, on behalf of its sponsor, Tyndale House.

 Peace does not lie in getting God to give me other circumstances.

Peace lies in finding God in these circumstances.

–john ortberg

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Comments

  1. cindy b. says:

    I love John Ortberg! He is one of my all-time favorite authors. I am currently reading Soul Keeping – I checked it out from the library, so I can’t mark it up, but I may need to get my own so I can! The Life You’ve Always Wanted is a must-read too!

  2. I am reading this book right now! I loved the reminder that an open door isn’t only for my benefit.

  3. This sounds like a good one to share with my family. How long are the video lessons? Trying to catch all our young adult kids and teens at the same time is challenging, so I want to be sure we can fit it in before I order. Thanks!

  4. This might make a good book for me and my husband to read together. I certainly need to learn decision making! I’m kind of a contradiction in that I hate to leave my comfort zone, but I also love risk and adventure. Yes, I’m crazy.

  5. Such a wonderful thing to remember! I’ve been apartment hopping EVERY YEAR for about five years now. Yeah, ugh. Each time, I say, “I’ll just wait until I’m in the next place to do that.” However, I’ve realized that I’m unhappy in the current space I’m in. Thanks for the encouragement just to DO IT!

    Circus & Bloom
    ♥♥♥

  6. Yes! This is so great. I just had this same conversation with my husband this morning. So many of us keep from living the life we are meant to live because of fear. If we just get past our fears and say yes!! Then we will embrace the bigness of our potential. You’re right, our home is a great place to prepare ourselves for the world, and you’ve helped me do just that!

  7. Ashley in NC says:

    I love this website and your posts ALWAYS seem to hit home for me. Last week it was the door painting post, and this week it’s this one! My husband and I have been talking about starting a family and although it’s so exciting, I am deathly afraid of being pregnant and giving birth, not to mention that I’m a planner, so I find myself obsessing over when we should start trying (after xx vacation, before xx deadline, should we buy a bigger house first?) Thank you for the gentle reminder that sometimes we just need to take a leap of faith and go for it!

  8. Baileywife @ Irishman acres says:

    Did you write this just for me? Thought so! (thanks) ~Kim

  9. I just came through a season of big, hard decision making. Now, I’m entering a season of living these decisions. I think I need this book:)

  10. Fantastic post! I love all of your book recommendation posts. Some of the best books I’ve read are the ones I’ve found out about through your blog. Thank you and please keep posting about what you’re reading!

  11. I’ve never thought fear held me back in life. I have no problems taking risks in my home, at church, etc. But…with my “career”? Terrified. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 10 years & have loved it. But I’ve felt an itch for the last few years to start a business. The only thing that has held me back? FEAR. I’m terrified of failing. I’m buying this book.

  12. Megan Wright says:

    My thoughts resonate with your thoughts concerning this topic. Without a doubt, the statement “The truth about being ready is that you’ll never be ready” which you quoted from John Ortberg is precise. How often humans wait to become ready before undertaking a difficult project or carrying out an item on the to do list that makes their heart heavy. Waiting until one is ready provides for an excuse to procrastinate which a person will often accept. Instead he could step out of his comfort zone, prepared to do that hard thing whether he feels ready or not. Just as you said, many don’t need advice that points them to the right choice, in fact what they long for is confidence that the choice that they are making will turn out the right way. But the truth is that “Beauty isn’t possible without risk,” exactly as you mentioned and because of this one must take those risks to find the underlying beauty. There is no guarantee that everything will turn out perfectly, but there is a promise of adventure in stepping out that is not present when one tries to remain safe.

  13. Oh did he have to shatter my favorite security saying? I am all about having peace about a situation before I jump. It rarely happens! Thank you for this awesome book recommendation, Nester, and your encouragement to try things in my home. Now I need a nail and a hammer. ;)

  14. Absolutely loved this, exactly what my heart needed to hear. I definitely need to step out in faith more and take risks. I love your blog.

  15. Yes!!! to this.
    I wrote something about this a couple years ago. It’s one of (many?) irritations about churchy people, our tendency to blame out decisions on the HS when that’s not at all the case.

    I should probably add this book to my stack…

  16. Thank you for this post. I sometimes have a hard time with your comforting words, as though nothing can comfort me. In the span of 3 years. I have lost my younger brother, my only child, my 14 year old dog, closed my shop, and am now losing my sister in law….I have a hard time with anything “heartwarming”. I spend a lot of time in my bathrobe. I have a hard time knowing what purpose I serve, and what I am supposed to be doing with the rest of my life. I was a very driven, competent, list-making, type A, and now I flounder. Before all this loss, I had toyed with a blog, and e commerce as an off shoot of my shop. This book might just be helpful. Thanks.

    • PS – the picture is my son.

      • Gray, I am so sorry. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through, staying in your bathrobe sounds like a perfectly normal option. Prayers for you today, friend. Thank you for sharing with us, and trusting us with a tiny part of your story.

        much love,
        myquillyn

        • My heart just breaks for you Gray. I’m so sorry seems pitifully inadequate. I agree the bathrobe sounds like a perfectly normal option. My prayer for you is that somehow, in the darkest nights and the deepest pain you will hold on to hope and that a supernatural awareness of God’s perfect love will sustain you until sweatpants become the choice and eventually you find the door to walk through. The door that leads to your mission front that allows you to use your painful losses to lead others to strength and hope.

  17. This was a really good read for me this morning. We have been charting our own course as a couple since we got married 9 years ago… God has pushed us and pulled us, and some days it just feels hard. We have been involved with anti-trafficking work for the last 5 years, and are now working on a large film project.But it is so much more then that. Real life and creativity collide. The ugly and the beautiful. There are constantly hurdles, and some days I want to toss in the towel. To bury my head, and raise my babies, and just be simple. Yet God gives us courage, to make the decisions we sometimes don’t want to because it isn’t the “safe” path. Each time we do, my hearts says “YES!” but it can be so hard to get to that place sometimes.
    “because if we can’t make a decision and take a little risk in the privacy and comfort of our own homes about where to hang a picture, how in the WORLD will we ever be able to take bigger, more important, life altering risks that we are presented?because if we can’t make a decision and take a little risk in the privacy and comfort of our own homes about where to hang a picture, how in the WORLD will we ever be able to take bigger, more important, life altering risks that we are presented?”
    Thank you for blogging about decorating, and SO MUCH MORE then decorating. It is good.

  18. This sounds like a great book for introverts who like to keep things simple and in the comfort zone. I’ve read his books before and they never disappoint. Thanks for the blog page!

  19. My granddaughter graduates in June – perfect! Thanks for the tip!

  20. Wow, this was a God wink. Just yesterday I gave notice at my very comfortable and great job of many years to pursue my dream of design and staging. The fear is starting to sink in so this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

  21. WOW! Thanks again for some truly inspirational words!

  22. Well, isn’t this lovely and true and perfectly timed. Thank you for the precious and simple reminder that creating something beautiful around us or within us is worth the risk of getting it wrong. A risk that’s probably mostly pretend anyway. I want to care less and less about the possibilities that things might not work and instead dare to dream about how well they might work. Thanks for this–I needed it.

  23. My husband and I agonize over this very thing all the time. I want to DO it, he wants to wait until conditions are right. He wants to get it done, I want to wait. We’ll pick this book up, sounds like a great book to share, thanks!

  24. Wow, what a wonderful surprise to find much-loved John Ortberg on your blog! Our small group just finished his study “Soul Keeping” . It was life-changing and it looks as if this latest work may be as well. It may be our next study. The benefits of a book such as this one are MULTIPLIED many times over when you read and study it with others Thanks for the feature!

  25. Thank you for the heads-up on this book! I can’t wait to order this book for my high school senior! :)

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