This INTJ is the kind of girl who, in the past, might roll her eye at the #appreciateyourself movement, but the truth is, that’s exactly the attitude that got me sleeping in a room tripping over an old 1980s TV.

Artist, Author and Lady Boss, Kathy Davis has one of the best taglines around:: Create A Life You Love. It’s been her battle cry for ages.

Kathy’s gentle reminder to #appreciateyourself is something I neglected for too long. Today I’m sharing one small way I decided to take her advice.

This is my story….


If you’ve been around here very long you know that we are in our 14th home–hopefully we are here to stay awhile.

In those early years when we were moving often (like moving every year or so) I fell into a really bad habit that I still regret.

When it came to setting up our house in our new place I’d focus on all the public rooms first and then, if I found the time, money and energy, I’d work on our bedroom.

In our last home, just five years ago, a TV sat on the floor of the bedroom for months. MONTHS.

I was purging, but then lost steam and that boxy TV just sat there waiting for me to get to it.

I didn’t bother to hang drapes or art, and our bedroom consisted of all the leftover furniture in the house. It was pretty depressing.

Here’s the evolution of our bedroom in our last house, a rental.


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Now there’s no turning back for me. When we moved to this house, the bedroom was one of the first rooms that felt complete.


I’ve come to appreciate the difference in my life when I make the effort to do something for me, even if no one else can see it.

You don’t have to spend every day like Tom and Donna in order to appreciate yourself.

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Simply creating a home where you can feel relaxed and inspired is a lovely way to appreciate yo self.

For me, having a pretty bedroom is one small way I make sure my own oxygen mask is secured before I start helping others.



Having a pretty bedroom doesn’t mean I have to knock down walls and start over, it simply means I appreciate myself enough to pay attention.

Maybe I’ll hang those drapes I’ve had folded away, light some candles and allow myself to use some pretty bedding (this set was even created by Kathy Davis herself, it’s called “Solitude” which is the perfect name).

The peace and beauty we bring to our surroundings can inspire how we begin and end each day.

I know you’ve been wondering about the giveaway, and of course it’s something that will help you take one tiny step towards appreciating yourself.

Enter to win a set of Kathy Davis bedding (like what I’m using on our bed–it’s reversible and I love it mixed with neutral patterns and textures!).



KATHY DAVIS™ & Nesting Place Bedding Giveaway




This post is graciously sponsored by Kathy Davis, the trusted voice of heartfelt connection. For 25 years she has helped us find just the right words to offer comfort, share joy and celebrate life with the ones we love.