Home, Purposefully. Part 2

 continued from yesterday, you must read Part 1 before you read this post, Part 2:

My husband’s franchise is flexible and since Nesting Place has grown he’s been able to take advantage of the flexibility. He works one day at our church during the week and then on Sunday so that means that slowly over the past year he’s taken one and then eased into two or three days home with us on the days the boys are home.  And he’s the patient one with the Master’s Degree in Education who used to teach high school so he’s been the one helping them on their homeschool days. Then one homeschool day last month he came in my office, closed the door and said that sometimes he wished he could just homeschool the boys himself without sending them to school.

And I got a huge goofy grin on my face.

Because we are ‘this-close’ to being debt free and because for some reason people like you come here and read these words and don’t mind coming back again the next day, and because we’ve thrown money at our debt like crazy for the past five years, we are able to make a choice that we never thought would be an option.

My husband is homeschooling our boys.  Starting two weeks ago.

This is the first “freedom decision” we’ve made.  Because two years ago, we needed that income too badly to consider him taking any time away from one of his jobs to be the boys teacher.  And even though he has a graduate degree in education, teaching wasn’t where the money was at to be able to pay off our debt.  And even though he’s always been a sought out teacher at any church we’ve attended, he hasn’t really had the time to do anything extra outside of his jobs because he’s been working so hard.

But now we have a choice.

And he’ll be working less at his jobs, but he’s been easing into that for the past year, plus, their school wasn’t free.  So now we don’t have that expense.

Sidenote:  I know some people think it’s insane for people in debt to pay to send their children to a private school.  (Ok, “some people” was totally me–it KILLED me to pay for school when I knew I could send them to public school or homeschool them for so much less money.) Maybe Dave Ramsey would have advised against it.  But we really wanted a certain style of teaching for a couple of our boys, and one, HAD to have a certain type of school. So the option was homeschool or pay for school.  For me to homeschool full-time, I wouldn’t have been able to spend the time growing Nesting Place. For argument’s sake yes, I could have saved $1 to not put them in school, but putting them in school and paying that allowed me to make $7.  (Totally not the right math, not the right percentage, but for argument’s sake you get the idea.)  So for our family we choose to put them in a great school we loved and me build my business that was already showing promising signs of growth.  Because Nesting Place was already making money, putting them in private school wasn’t a huge gamble like it would have been if I was starting a business.  Yep, we’ve learned that kind of thing the hard way.

 my husband & my dad

And I get to keep writing here. And doing something I love, and I’ll actually have real time to spend working instead of doing everything in the cracks.  Why do I always feel like I only work in the cracks?  Oh yeah, because I do.  I do most of my work before 7am.  And then it’s cracks after that.

And the best news, our boys get to have their dad as a teacher!  They are so lucky.

I am so excited for all of us!

So, small side note but remember how I had that sofa in our foyer because we got a new sofa?  Once I knew we were pulling the boys out of school and they’d be doing more reading books at home I figured it was time to trade out the old homework table for a more cozy option. I pulled that coffee table down from the playroom so they could still have a much-needed surface for working and computing and Lego-ing and puzzle-ing.

But knowing they were gonna be home more led to a different purpose for our family room and ultimately an odd change.  We took the kitchen table out of our family room and brought in a secondary sofa.  Is there such a thing as too many sofas?   I hope not.

Anyway, we are all so excited about this new adventure and I couldn’t wait to share it with you.  Thanks for being a part of it.

I’d love to hear about any “freedom decisions” that your family has been able to make or is hoping to make once your debt is paid off.  Share in the comments?


  1. I had the worst job ever. Let me explain my self cleaning toillets or wiping people’s butts is nothing compared to what I used to do (to be honest you wipe yours for free it would be great to get paid for doing something that simple). Why was my job a nightmare first the bosses they were from another country which had a different set of rules and they were to hard on everyone, I’m a hard worker never quit, also a perfectionist, so I wouldn’t complain if they wanted a little extra from you, but they wanted to exploit you. One would never imagine that such companies exist in the USA. The least that they did was prohibited you from talking to a coworker on your free time about your personal life. Also during work hours they would yell at you for asking somebody what are they having for lunch. Besides that it was a chaos the office was supposed to open at 8 am and if the person that had the keys was late, even if you we’re already in there you had to pay for that (by paying I mean they would make you stay and extra hour if you wanted to get your salary). No paid vacations, no paid sick days and so on. Their moto was you do good things every day so we don’t have to point them
    Out but is bad what we have to recall to you so that you don’t keep on do it, in other words no possitive enforcement which is a vital key to the success of a company. I forgot to mention we have to lie to customers about where the company was located and its procedures and so on. Had to be sexually abused by the phone, ( I forgot to mention the kind of business I worked for was a bail bonds company) because they couldn’t control whatever was happening on the other side of the phone and there was a freak who used to call every day. Besides all that there were cameras and mic all over de office not one or two many supposedly for safety (which wasn’t truth they just wanted to checked what you were doing every single second) and so on. So my crazy step of freedom was leaving that job 4 months ago even though I haven’t find anything else yet I could never be happiest, and have a clean mind.

  2. Wonderful inspiring story. At this particular moment I can’t imagine being debt free. But imagining isn’t going to help me anyway. Making a plan is. This may sound a little odd, but because my husband was hit by a car 20 years ago and suffered traumatic brain injury, thus losing his Director of Marketing job, he has had the freedom to pursue a doctorate in education. God has provided in many ways. And I have mostly worked at home all these years as an editor and writer. Now sometimes this requires a lot of crack work…but the way we’ve lived our lives has been a choice. And that’s freedom sometimes I take for granted.
    So happy for your success!!

  3. Wow, fast forward about 5 years and I hope this is exactly our story! My husband (also a teacher) wants to homeschool our kiddos when the time comes, and we’re hoping that blogging eventually makes that possible. Huge congratulations to your family on this new adventure!

  4. Way to go on sticking to the Dave Ramsay plan! We’re working through that all and can’t wait to make freedom decisions like this! I love to hear your encouraging stories like this. Hope it all goes well!

    Congrats on so many levels!

  6. Good for y’all. Everyone has to make their different choices, and this is so great! I love this. congratulations on being able to do this!

  7. Wow, this and your other post were so inspiring. The key takeaways I got are, (1) have big dreams and (2) there will be a season of plowing before you get to the life you want to have. You have me writing out my big dreams now.mthanks for that!

  8. This is really incredible! Thank you for sharing your story with us! I am so happy for your family! Kelly

  9. oh man this is all so good. i do all my work in the cracks too! such a good way to put it. my two oldest do university model school and i have two littler ones who keep me hopping. we have worked hard to be debt free as well…the sacrifices are so so worth it. good job nester girl!

  10. is it silly that i am a bit weepy over this? I just LOVE this story. Your hubs is going to be one amazing teacher!!!! Congratulations to your whole family. Somehow, I bet you would not have written the story the same way. Praise Him that we don’t get to drive the boat. LOVE this.

  11. RubberChickenGirl says

    Oh, man. I wish my dh would take over the homeschooling!! Do not covet your neighbor’s (homeschooling) husband!! ;O)

    Yeah, God. I am happy for you guys…..you’ve worked hard and deserve a great arrangement.


  12. I think I might have been following you for 5 years now. So, congratulations.

  13. I know this post is from a year ago but i’ve been reading this particular “31 days” series over the last few days. First off, congrats!! What an amazing story!! My family is in a bit of a “starting over” phase in life…..my three boys and i recently moved into a tiny 861 sq ft cottage in the country. We love this little house, which we actually lived in 5 years ago as well (long story, but here we are….again) but now that they are older and BiGGeR, it’s a wee bit “cozier” around here!

    My freedom story is that thankfully, prior to an unexpected divorce, i had started a small biz
    designing jewelry. I treated it more as a hobby at first. But it became a passion that i was able to pursue without having to actually provide an income. I was able to put all profits back into it. That all changed this summer when my boys and i moved out of our large, comfortable home and back into the cottage. My little fun biz was all of a sudden our only source of income! That was scary but i knew taking a second job was not the answer. I wanted to be able to continue working from home so i could be there when the kids get home from school, so i could continue being involved with their activities and continue being “that” mom. Failure was not an option!

    It took a few months to get over the hump and get back into a regular routine, and i’m still working on setting up a seperate studio space…..right now it’s the kitchen table and bar and a small desk in the living room. I currently share a bedroom with my 8 yr old. The water heater blew up last week and i’m in serious need of a pedicure. However, the fact that i am able to provide for my family, while still having the FREEDOM to be there for them and continue growing my little business, while working from home makes all of these little inconveniences totally worth it!!

    Thank you for writing this beauiful blog and for being an inspiration to so many.

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