Home Wasn’t Built in a Day

My boys have never really had any kind of window treatment on their windows other than a randomly tacked up mistreatment that lasts for a few days. My oldest son’s mattress is currently on the floor. In the last couple of years we’ve moved so often that if I delay a month or so in hanging stuff on our walls, then we could have stuff laying around waiting to be hung for 20% of the time we live in a house. Yes, I figured out the percentage, I like math.

It was 10 years into our marriage before we really bought much furniture. No dressers for kids, no rugs, no drapes other than those duck cotton bleached tab tops from Pier 1 Imports–that I still think are so pretty. We’ve had a deck or patio for the last 7 years. This summer my sister-in-law gave us her old patio set. It’s the first one we’ve ever had.

Sometimes you just have to wait. Or you choose to wait. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You can enjoy the process over time. Instead of focusing on the fact that my walls are um pink? I choose to look at my pretty painted armoire.

I’m still keeping my eyes peeled for that last perfect black knob to go on the bottom. I had 25 women to my house last month with a knob less focal point. No one seemed to care.

It seems like there are two types of people when it comes to decorating. Those who put entirely too much pressure on themselves with every little decorating decision. What if I don’t like this 5×7 frame one I get it home, forget it, I can’t decide!

Then there those of us who make decisions fast and are completely impatient with our house and want it done NOW. We usually feel guilty that we are still not done with our house and our projects. We sometimes make a horrible mistake and forget to enjoy what we have because we are so overwhelmed with what needs to be done.

I just cannot get that wall to look right.

When I find myself dwelling on what needs to be done I try to stop and refocus. Enjoy what is done. Look around and see all the things that you love. Oh, there’s our favorite snugly blanket, there’s the table where we all sit and laugh and fight at dinner. There’s the rock collection that my boy’s keep adding to, I think I’ll put those in a pretty dish.

If your husband has been tirelessly trying to please you by finishing the long list of projects you’ve given him, give him a few weeks off and tell him how much you appreciate it. Maybe you need to give yourself permission to slow down and take in all that you have accomplished.

There’s no deadline to have your house finished.
{unless you are putting it on the market, but that’s another post}

I hope I never have a finished house.
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  1. This post is a great reminder for me. . . . I am definitely one of the impatient ones who wants everything perfect–NOW! Then, I end up being stressed and tired of what I have done before I ever start the next project. Thanks for posting this :)

  2. Thanks for stressing the fact that we can break the decorating rules and it’s OK to not have a perfectly decorated house. I’m shooting for that warm lived in look and it’s taking me forever. We’ve been in our new built home going on five years now. Half of the interior is still not painted. It’s such a chore to paint that if I am not completed 100% decided on the colors, it gets put on hold. Maybe I am too picky and need to relax a little bit. I also have to take into consideration that my husband also lives here so my feminine touches are to a minimum. Which also slows down the decision process. I really enjoy your blog site!! Happy New year -belated. ~Ames

  3. THANK YOU! I realize this post was written a while ago. But I just found your blog and I’m starting from the beginning. I just moved thousands of miles away from all my family, and I sit here with 3 little kids and a busy husband and sooo much on my plate. I keep wishing for Mary Poppins to come finish my house for me. And i need to accept that it may be a long while til its even close to being done, to my standard anyway. Thank you for the reminders that I don’t have to have everything i want right away. Enjoy what I have, save up our money. I can’t say thank you enough for this post!

  4. You have inspired me. I desperately wanted to move closer to my parents, which was not helped by the long list of projects I saw that needed to be done on my house. I even had a realtor come and tell me if it would be worth it to put it on the market. The bad news is that the market where we are is so bad that she told me there would be NO WAY we would sell the house for what we needed to move. That was the weekend that we found your blog. My reaction? If I can’t be in the house I love (a gorgeous historic home that is still on the market), then I will love the one I’m with. Since then, I have painted a brick fireplace, re-purposed a TV armoir into a bar. Painted all of my dining room chairs white and shopped the clearance racks, garage sales, and craigslist. I have a strict under $100 budget for furniture and under $10 for accessories. The house is already looking better and I am finishing the projects. I just wanted to say thank you for the inspiration.

  5. I absolutely love your blog! I completely agree with your philosophy and I always try to make whatever home I happen to be in the most comfortable place. I have re-modeled and re-decorated two apartments so far in the last year (hopefully we’ll stay in this one for a while), so I know all about moving often.

    Good for you taking your show on the web. I myself am trying to create myself on the web, as I live in Italy now and can’t find much to do in my real life. Thank you for being an inspiration!

  6. I know this post isn’t recent, but I just came across it for the first time and may I just say thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Actually, I’m going to write a post about this. Thank you, again. <3 Teresa


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